Psychologist John Gottman set up an experiment to see how couples treat one another in happy times. He realized if he could one action that he could count, then he could predict with accuracy, whether a relationship will remain happy. Are you ready for it? If their partner points at a bird, and says “wow, look at that pretty bird” and their partner stops, looks, and agrees, that means they’ll be good. It’s the tiny things here, or “bids.” When you respond well to your partner when they try to make a connection, the more you do that, the more likely it is that the relationship will last. Boom!