In this week’s relationship court, listener Rachel wants to know if she can hook up with an ex, with no feelings involved. This never turns out well girlfriend.

Ahoy BAJ dating sucks and I’ve been in a dry spell for the last six months. Out of nowhere my ex texted me last night asking me to come over. We had a toxic relationship that lead to a pretty ugly break up. In no way am I interested in getting back together with him but I am down for a hook up. I’ve never casually hooked up with an ex before, i’m worried that somehow feelings may come back and I find myself back in a unhealthy situation. Do you think it’s a good idea to hook up if we both agree to keep it casual? I haven’t responded to his text yet because I don’t know what to do. Also, why the hell are all the good guys either gay or married? It’s a cesspool out here of left behinds and weirdo’s. I’m hoping you can help a girl out! My daughter Gwen and I love your show and listen every morning. Keep up the great work and we look forward to seeing you at Portugal The Man! 

With love,

Rachel xoxo