Parenting is not an easy game, but some are better at it than others. There’s a chance that as a child, your parents did at least one of these things that is now causing you tremendous psychological harm. HuffPost Parents spoke with several experts who shared some things that may seem minor, but are very damning to a child’s development. Here’s what they listed:
- “It’s not a big deal” during a child’s meltdown.
- “You never” or “You always do XYZ.” as a critique on a child’s behavioral patterns.
- “You make me sad when you do that.” is a cheap way of saying, “I’m not mad, I’m disappointed.”
- “You should know better.” Some of us can barely tie our shoes and we pay rent, know child “knows better”.
- “Just let me do it.” is a good way to crush a kid’s dreams.
- “You’re a [insert label here].” This is just mean.
The good news is that HuffPost Parents provided us with a list of solutions to these phrases, all of which can be found here.
